80-20 rule by Todd Smith

Even though some may call this a bad analogy, I feel that relationships between a man and woman are pretty similar to a business. In life we search for the things we do not have based on what we see and want. Whether it be on television, walking down the street, at work, going out to eat, party, or go to the movies everyday we see things that we like or want in our lives. A business in many cases, is a company or person(s) that provides a service of or support for a product that we exchange for money. A good business is to provide a reliable source of that need in a timely fashion. Ultimately businesses work diligently for you as the customer, to make sure for that particular service or product you may need, at anytime the thought comes across your mind you will think of that particular company. This is called repeat business. Companies every year spend millions if not billions on advertisement, just to make sure that you do not "CHEAT" on them!

In a relationship, we want something from the partner that we lack or do not have at all. If you have low self esteem that person would ideally want someone with a lot of confidence. If you are broke, you would want to be with someone with moeny to fill that void. If you have a strong sex drive, you want someone that fills that void for you as well. You have heard the saying, "the grass always looks greener on the other side...." plenty times in life but how does this apply to relationships? When you are out and about (male/female) you can't help but to notice the couple that is effectionate or the man/woman that "knows how to treat a lady/man." Us male "sexual deviants" can't help but notice the girl with the skirt to high, or the nice body with the jeans too tight just so we can see every curve that exists on her body, or the too-tight bra that makes her breasts appear so large that it looks like their are 4 of them. Everyday we see things that seem to look more sexier, more fullfilling and just damn right better than what we have at home.

They say that in a relationship which is pretty similar to a business, you only get about 80% fullfillment of what we "want." On a daily if you are in a good relationship that means you deal with the 80% that you have and should be thankful for that because the single life can get pretty lonely. So the ironany in life is, of course you also will have to face the 20% that you are missing throughout your daily temptations. The logical way of thinking is, I have something good at home so I do not need anything more. If I lose what I have at home it will hurt me as well as my partner that I dearly care about. But we all know, not all men think logically initially and/or especially when we are in the heat of the moment. If humans thought logically all the time then companies like McDonalds would not be as wealthy as they are So when we see the fast and easy, flirtatious, freaky female with the skimpy clothes we might lose our mind because, at home we don't have that. And even if we do have that at home, the one in our face now might just be different enough to seem like its any better. We stick with what we have for the obvious safer reasons right? WRONG! If everyday we eat burgers and fries, its only human instinct that when someone offers steak and potatoes it will look so much better. Regardless if its the same meat, its just cooked differently!

The underline of all this is that you as a horny man do not realize that this pretty female in front of you is only offering 20% of your needs. As she brags about her oral sex skills and shows off her beautiful body, she more than likely is not on your level spritually, financially or just plain right mentally.

So why on earth would you give up the 80 for the 20?



-Todd Smith a.k.a "Rav P"