So you think I'm an _______?!?!?

so I'm here today to discuss what i have been called on several different occasions. its what you call a person that you really don't care for, or someone that has recently upset you. the word is "a**hole". now that's get a proper definition of this word from our good friend Webster's dictionary. Webster defines "a**hole" as '1) usually vulgar : anus. 2) usually vulgar : a stupid, incompetent, or detestable person usually vulgar : the worst place —used in phrases like asshole of the world'.
now wen i was first called it i was not happy at all about this. i felt hurt that someone WHO actually knows me would call me this. anyone who knows me personally knows that I'm the nicest, friendliest, selfless person you have ever encountered. so those words coming from ppl that i know kinda touched my sensitive side. BUT... after thinking about it for a while i decided to embrace it. i mean if you call me/ want to to be an "a**hole" ill be one. i have no problem living up to that title. it just means i can give little effort in pleasing others. it means i don't have to be nice to people, don't have to go that extra step to make people happy, and i can focus more on me. since people already expect me to be an "a**hole" i will try my best to be one. lol so the moral of this story is be careful what you wish say , you may just get what you say. lmao! no really theres no moral , its just something i wanted to say.
In closing I just want to leave you with there few words .... I'm not and "a**hole" I'm whatever you want me to be. So if that's want you want or expect outta me, that what you will get. But when its all said and done and you looking back , I will only be me. So take me for who I am or just leave me who I'll be.

~CF~

80-20 rule by Todd Smith

Even though some may call this a bad analogy, I feel that relationships between a man and woman are pretty similar to a business. In life we search for the things we do not have based on what we see and want. Whether it be on television, walking down the street, at work, going out to eat, party, or go to the movies everyday we see things that we like or want in our lives. A business in many cases, is a company or person(s) that provides a service of or support for a product that we exchange for money. A good business is to provide a reliable source of that need in a timely fashion. Ultimately businesses work diligently for you as the customer, to make sure for that particular service or product you may need, at anytime the thought comes across your mind you will think of that particular company. This is called repeat business. Companies every year spend millions if not billions on advertisement, just to make sure that you do not "CHEAT" on them!

In a relationship, we want something from the partner that we lack or do not have at all. If you have low self esteem that person would ideally want someone with a lot of confidence. If you are broke, you would want to be with someone with moeny to fill that void. If you have a strong sex drive, you want someone that fills that void for you as well. You have heard the saying, "the grass always looks greener on the other side...." plenty times in life but how does this apply to relationships? When you are out and about (male/female) you can't help but to notice the couple that is effectionate or the man/woman that "knows how to treat a lady/man." Us male "sexual deviants" can't help but notice the girl with the skirt to high, or the nice body with the jeans too tight just so we can see every curve that exists on her body, or the too-tight bra that makes her breasts appear so large that it looks like their are 4 of them. Everyday we see things that seem to look more sexier, more fullfilling and just damn right better than what we have at home.

They say that in a relationship which is pretty similar to a business, you only get about 80% fullfillment of what we "want." On a daily if you are in a good relationship that means you deal with the 80% that you have and should be thankful for that because the single life can get pretty lonely. So the ironany in life is, of course you also will have to face the 20% that you are missing throughout your daily temptations. The logical way of thinking is, I have something good at home so I do not need anything more. If I lose what I have at home it will hurt me as well as my partner that I dearly care about. But we all know, not all men think logically initially and/or especially when we are in the heat of the moment. If humans thought logically all the time then companies like McDonalds would not be as wealthy as they are So when we see the fast and easy, flirtatious, freaky female with the skimpy clothes we might lose our mind because, at home we don't have that. And even if we do have that at home, the one in our face now might just be different enough to seem like its any better. We stick with what we have for the obvious safer reasons right? WRONG! If everyday we eat burgers and fries, its only human instinct that when someone offers steak and potatoes it will look so much better. Regardless if its the same meat, its just cooked differently!

The underline of all this is that you as a horny man do not realize that this pretty female in front of you is only offering 20% of your needs. As she brags about her oral sex skills and shows off her beautiful body, she more than likely is not on your level spritually, financially or just plain right mentally.

So why on earth would you give up the 80 for the 20?



-Todd Smith a.k.a "Rav P"

Why do folks judge so harsh???

I was in the store the other day and i had my young black and educated t-shirt on...well on the front it said "Americas Worst Nightmare"I guess that kinda through the lady off for a minute...who knows. anyways...i proceeded to ask her for some help and she actually seemed scared and kinda turned away from me. then i turned around and showed her what it said on the back and you wont believe what came out of her mouth next...."oh I'm so glad that is what it said, i thought you were one of those thugs or something"...then she proceeded to help me...keep in mind that she was black as well. now i wasn't in there all thugged out with my grill in or wearing a du-rag or even saggin'. i guess the first appearance of the shirt just made her judge me. i was being my usual nice, charming self, and meant no harm....now here is the question, do you think that was wrong of her to judge me off appearance alone, or was it simply the fact that i am a young, black male and i looked intimidating? is it fair to judge others off looks alone period? i just wanted to share a very small chapter in my life with you guys...if u care to comment or write back, holla at me on any occasion...

~Willz

History or should I say His Story

I can actually say that I have lived during an important historic moment! The United States of America has elected an African American by the name of "Barack Obama". This is something HUGE not just in the US but all over the world!! People of all ages are extremely excited about this monumental moment, not just in American history but in world history. Many of the individuals that witnessed this historic moment are people can remember and some may have even experienced slavery or segregation to some agree. We have come a long way from separated water fountains and fire-hosing in the streets! But we still have a very long way to go...

On another note emotions are very high at this time, and they are very diverse. Some people are rejoicing, others are fearful, and there are a few who are even upset. Some feel that, "We are not ready for a 'black' president." I totally disagree with that. Its 2008 and I feel that we are ready for change. Weather change comes in the form of a female president or an African American president. I feel that the US is different today and in a different space than it has been. Therefore we need someone that is going to make a difference. And I feel that President Obama is that difference!



All in all I am very excited, fearful, and anxious to see what is next for us!



~Fly Guy Free



"This is a moment many, people not just Americans have been waiting for!"